I keep thinking Rich is the harder of the two. Tsunetomo says weigh the moment, choose the hour, prepare the ground. Rich answers that "lying is done with words, and also with silence", and that waiting for the right hour can quietly become the lie. The essay took the gentler counsel. She keeps it honest about the cost. The mend still has to be made.
I think rich is speaking in/for a different stage of relationship, when people are already committed, have at least in part already agreed they want to go for broke. or so I felt it when I handed it to my friend: here’s how it could be. refining - refining - the truths between us.
"refining the truths two people are able to tell each other" - adrienne rich 1975 Women and honor: some notes on lying
I keep thinking Rich is the harder of the two. Tsunetomo says weigh the moment, choose the hour, prepare the ground. Rich answers that "lying is done with words, and also with silence", and that waiting for the right hour can quietly become the lie. The essay took the gentler counsel. She keeps it honest about the cost. The mend still has to be made.
I think rich is speaking in/for a different stage of relationship, when people are already committed, have at least in part already agreed they want to go for broke. or so I felt it when I handed it to my friend: here’s how it could be. refining - refining - the truths between us.